Very often I have heard and still hear people speaking about finding their SOUL MATES in life and love. I have, on occasion, even caught myself speaking about it. And whenever I’ve heard someone talk about their SOUL MATE, it’s always sounded somewhat tacky but also rather mystical. Usually these people have this completely transfigured look when they talk about it and seem to be in another world. So, as I am insatiably curious, I thought I would dive a little deeper into this topic and find out what it even means to meet your SOUL MATE and what a SOUL MATE is or can be. Just a little warning; this might get somewhat spiritual, which is a side most of you have not yet seen from me – yet.

“There are moments, when you’re getting to know someone, when you realize something deep and buried in you is deep and buried in them, too. It feels like meeting a stranger you’ve known your whole life.” – Leah Raeder

In my research of this fascinating topic I found the following definition from the Urban Dictionary that I would like to share with you:


“No one can predict when soul mates will meet. You will meet your soul mate when the souls are ready to meet. Fate and destiny contribute to the romantic bliss and happiness where both partners are so immersed in the strong karmic connection. The relationship between soul mates has a certain magical, mystical feel to it. The love is so strong the chemistry is unexplainable and sex is mind blowing. Destiny makes sure these people find each other and gives two people the opportunity to have a fabulous relationship, grow as people and learn valuable lessons. A soul mate relationship is a concert being conducted by the universe. With your soul mate before you, you shed the fears and masks that deny you real love. You both work together in balance and always striving for equality and respecting each others contributions. Love is the center of everything you do, the synergy will be magnified with the power you need to manifest your dreams together. Soul mates feel that their souls are connected no matter the distance. Everything blends together harmoniously, conversations flow seamlessly, you feel their touch when apart and their voice echoes in your mind peacefully. A soul mate is your twin, a reflection of yourself, someone that will hold your hand and walk with you in darkness. Your soul mate makes you proud and everything he/she does or says you find enlightening. A soul mate completes you.”

WOW, now I must admit that this sounds very Hollywood to me. Can it really be that perfect? It sounds like heaven on earth and all the peace that comes with it. As I know from experience that very little in life is that perfect so I started digging a little deeper and it seems that this one definition only shows the sunny side of this topic and there is so much more to it. Now my curiosity has been tickled there is no turning back. So I will dive in deep, really deep!

“Soulmates aren’t the ones who make you happiest, no. They’re instead the ones who make you feel the most. Burning edges and scars and stars. Old pains and pangs, captivation and beauty. Strain and shadows and worry and yearning. Sweetness and madness and dreamlike surrender. They hurl you into the abyss. They taste like hope.” – Victoria Erickson

One thing that is certainly true is that to love is to learn. We learn so much about ourselves in relationships. There are people who can transport us to heaven one moment and to the deepest hell the next (doesn’t that sound so much more realistic?). There are fateful connections, karmic relationships and there are spiritual soul connections – SOUL MATES.

“…and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself, whether he be a lover of youth or a lover of another sort, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other’s sight, as I may say, even for a moment…”
― Plato, The Symposium

So even the Greek philosopher Plato speaks of the fact that at the beginning of human existence souls or humans were divided into two halves. From now on they are condemned to feel a constant longing for their second half and the desire to reunite. This is what Plato calls love.

Love is born into every human being; it calls back the halves of our original nature together; it tries to make one out of two and heal the wound of human nature.”
― Plato, The Symposium

In more esoteric circles nowadays the term “dual soul” is also often used. This dual soul means nothing other than this one soul partner, two people who complement each other perfectly, who are one on a soul level, two parts of a whole – SOUL MATES.

It is said that soul partners meet again and again from incarnation to incarnation. They are closely connected with each other and in phases of separation both profit from the experiences of the other.

“With some we’re certain our hearts must’ve been aquainted long before we have ever met them.” – Shakieb Orgunwall

How can you recognise your SOUL MATE?

Here are some of the indications that you may have met your SOUL MATE:

  • Feelings that are as strong as you has never experienced before.
  • You seems to have known the other for a long time, even though you have just met.
  • It is an electrifying feeling between the two that words cannot describe.
  • It almost feels as if you had not lived before this reunion happened.
  • You feel a deep, almost divine connection with the other person that you have never felt before.
  • It brings feelings to the surface that you never thought were possible.
  • You feel inseparably connected to each other.
  • When you look into each other’s eyes, space and time seem meaningless.
  • No barriers seem to exist between the two partners. The connection is absolutely unique.
  • A conversation seems endless.
  • The relationship, whether romantic or not, has an intensity that can’t really be explained. You may even feel a strong past life connection.
  • You feel an unconditional love, you just love without demanding, no matter how the other person behaves.
  • You feel the others energy, intuitively knowing how the other is doing.
  • Because of many similarities, you will undoubtedly have the sense of completion by the other.
  • The encounter can often bring many life changes. Perhaps, meeting this person turns your life around in a dramatic way.
  • If in a romantic relationship, the strong build of energy may cause you to enter into an “on and off again” relationship.
  • You experience a degree of intimacy and friendship that is without equal.

Those are a lot of signs to look out for but at the end of the day I believe the only ways to really tell is by trusting your own intuitive feelings and your heart. If this were Hollywood than we would end here with the “happily ever after”. But this is not a cheesy film so let’s look into this just a little more.

Since SOUL MATES also have their karma, these relationships are not always easy. In any case, the encounter with the SOUL MATE, one’s own dual soul or twin flame, is something very special for many people, often a drastic experience that overturns the whole life or paves the way for great spiritual and personal growth processes. After meeting the soul partner, often nothing is as it was before…

“You were you, and I was I; We were two before our time. I was yours before I knew, and you have always been mine too.” – Lang Leav

“What God has joined together, let not man put asunder.” This sentence is familiar to all of us from the church wedding ceremony and it is often used as an argument against divorce. However, if you believe in SOUL MATES, in the fact that there are people who are destined for each other by fate, this sentence immediately takes on a completely different, more conclusive meaning: what has been joined together by God, man shall not separate, because he cannot, this relationship is destiny.

Maybe you wonder if you have already met your soul mate, maybe you are sure that you have met him or her, but your relationship is difficult. This actually is not really that unusual. SOUL MATES don’t necessarily have to be forever. Often once the lesson you are to learn is learned, SOUL MATES can move on.

This may be very different to how you may have perceived the SOUL MATE connection, but it may also describe those exciting and very intimate relationships that change everything in your life yet they are not meant to last. Sometimes soulmate relationships can blossom into forever, and other times they are simply so intense that they need to be released.

Even though SOUL MATES may not physically stay together forever, the love that connects them is and always will be there. SOUL MATES touch us in such deep and profound ways that their memory will remain with us as long as we live (and possibly beyond).

Have I met my SOUL MATE in life yet? Yes, I have and it was not meant to be. We never had a real chance in this life. I remember something he said to me – it was at the beginning of a long on and off relationship. He said, “please make sure we meet at an earlier stage of our lives in our next life so we can stay together as we are meant to be.” Perhaps he already knew we were meant to be together even though it was impossible in this life. Looking back he was right and it took me a while to make my peace with what at the time felt was a very cruel injustice. Loving your SOUL MATE can be excruciatingly painful but love should not hurt like that.

Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love. But in reality, love is the only thing in this world that covers up all pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt” ― Liam Neeson

With time to think about it, process it and the necessary distance between us, I know that he was right all along. Sometimes souls still have a lot to learn before they can reunite and have their happily ever after. My story is a beautiful one and I am endlessly grateful for it as it has taught me so much and changed my life for the better.

Have you met your SOUL MATE? I would love to hear your story!


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